When the time finally comes for your teenage daughter to start taking driving lessons, you might have mixed emotions. All parents are worried about their children getting behind the wheel, even if it’s something that you know has to happen for them. It’s best to accept the situation and through your weight behind making sure you help them pass their test at the first time of asking. It’ll only cause them and you more problems if they fail and have to have multiple shots at it.
But what can you realistically do to help your daughter pass her driving test? After all, you can’t take it for her, so isn’t this one of those occasions when you have to take a back seat and allow her to get on with? Well, yes and no. Of course, the responsibility is with her, but that doesn’t mean you can’t help out as a parent as well. That’s what all parents have to do and that doesn’t change just because she’s growing up and entering adult life.
So without further ado, it’s time to talk about what you can do to help your daughter pass her driving test at the very first attempt. It will take effort and hard work from both of you, but it’ll all be worth it in the end.
Help Them Find a Qualified Instructor
Perhaps the single most important factor of all is the instructor that your daughter chooses to use when learning to drive. The driving lessons they receive will directly impact on how quickly they pass or whether they pass at all, so search carefully for a qualified instructor with the right skills. Listen to reviews and see what other people you know have to say about the services they or someone in their family used. You need to be sure you can trust this person completely.
Don’t Let Them Take Things Too Fast
Young people often want instant results without the waiting that comes with most major achievements in life. Taking things too fast might be common nowadays but it’s only likely to lead to negative outcomes for your daughter. Patience is key because no one can expect to attain their license instantly without first putting in a lot of work on the road with their instructor. Don’t let them push things too fast and try to keep them balanced.
Provide Them With the Financial Support if Necessary
Sadly, learning to drive does not come cheap at all, and it’s unlikely your daughter will have the cash to cover all the costs. If you want to support her and help her pass her test as quickly as possible, the best thing you can possibly do is back them up with the right financial support. If it’s necessary, you should be willing to cover the costs of all the lessons so that they can focus on actually learning to drive and getting all of the practical things right. They won’t pass first time if they’re busy worrying about money issues.
Introduce Them to the Roads Where They’re Learning
This is something that might not seem too important or impactful, but when your daughter is learning to drive, familiarity can really help her out and make the process easier. Take the time out to drive around the area where she’s going to be learning to drive and eventually taking her test and talk to her about the roads and any peculiarities they might feature. The better they understand the roads they’re going to be driving on, the easier it will be for them.
Make Them Understand the Importance of Practice
Practice makes perfect might just be the oldest cliche in the book, but it’s so commonly used because there’s a lot of truth to it. You really do get better and achieve more when you’re willing to put in the hard yards and practice relentlessly. It’s up to you to reinforce this idea in the mind of your daughter. They need to understand that driving is one of those things that you only ever get better at by practicing. Talking about it or reading about it won’t make you a better driver on the practical level, although she will need to pass the theory test too!
Be There to Listen to Their Struggles
Sometimes, there’s nothing more important than simply being there to listen to them when they’ve had a bad driving lesson and they’re unsure of how to improve. Of course, as someone who has been there before, you’ll know that with more time and more practice they’ll achieve what they need to achieve. But it still helps to be there as a support when they want to complain and unleash the stress that’s building up as a result of their struggles. Without being critical or preachy, you should listen to what they’re saying and do what you can to ease her worries.
Offer Advice From Your Own Experience When You Think it Will Help
If you’ve been driving for many years now, you must have learned lots of lessons that can be passed on to your daughter as she gains experience and work toward getting her license. There’s nothing wrong with offering advice and lessons that emerge from your own experiences on the road. These things could genuinely help your daughter avoid the mistakes that many new drivers make when they’re still in the process of learning. You need to find a way of offering this advice without it seeming like you’re interfering too much though.
Contextualise Their Failings
As they learn to drive, they will inevitably hit bumps in the road and experience some difficulties; that’s just the way it is. To help them get through these issues, you simply need to be there to reassure them. By putting those minor failings and setbacks into a wider context, you should help them to see the bigger picture and focus on the things that matter. If you’re not there to pick them during those difficult times, they might feel like giving up and wallowing in self-pity, which is never a good thing.
Help Them Prepare for the Theory Test
The theory test is so often underestimated by people who are learning to drive. It’s seen as the easy formality that you have to do even if no one ever fails it. However it’s not quite true that no one ever fails it. There are always going to be people who fall short, and these people are often the ones who take it for granted and assume it will be really easy to get right. That’s why you should do what you can to help your daughter prepare for the theory part of her driving test. Give her the books she needs and test her in the run up to the test.
Give Them Motivation
Finding that motivation to stay on track is not easy for anyone going through the process of learning to drive. You can make it easier on your child by providing them with the motivation they need. The best and most obvious way of doing this is to promise them that you’ll buy them a car of their own once they have achieved success by passing their test. Sure, it’s a big financial commitment to make but it’ll certainly motivate them to work hard at it when times are tough and they’re struggling to nail down certain techniques.
Get Them to Their Tests On Time
The last thing your daughter needs is for them to get to their tests late because this could result in an instant failure before any progress has even been made. Even though this is really their responsibility, you should play an active role in helping them get to their theory and driving tests at the right time. Make sure they’ve had something to eat and are properly prepared ahead of the test. This will give them the best chance of finding success, even though these things might sound relatively minor.
Don’t Let Them Give Up
Last, but certainly not least, you need to make sure you don’t allow your teenage daughter to give up when things start to get difficult for them. This journey definitely won’t be simple or straightforward for them, but that doesn’t mean the answer is to throw in the towel and give up. You should remind them of the regrets they’ll be likely to feel later on down the line if they do give in to the temptation to give up. It might not seem like a big deal to them right now but you know that it will later.
Passing her driving test will be a big step in life for your daughter so you need to do whatever you can to help them make a success of it. Even though she’s now growing up and spreading her wings, that doesn’t mean you can’t be there to assist her because she’ll still need your help with this vital milestone.